Based on Auberon Waugh's delightful foreword to The Unlucky Family which was re-published by the Folio Society in 1980 (sadly now out of print).
Mrs Henry de la Pasture was born Elizabeth Bonham, daughter of Edward Bonham sometime HM Consul in Calais, and great-graddaughter of Sir Samuel Bonham, a colonial administrator who was created baronet on his retirement (and then lived in Bramling, Kent).
Her first husband was Count Henry de la Pasture, 3rd son of .. "the 14th Count and 3rd Marquis de la Pasture" of an emigree family settled in England after the Revolution, and they lived in Llandogo Priory, Monmouthshire. According to Kellys Directory 1901 "The Priory, the seat of Henry de la Pasture esq. is situated on the Falls Hill, and affords a magnificent view of the Wye Valley and surrounded by well-wooded grounds and park of 160 acres. The Llandogo Falls, sometimes called the Cleddon Shoots, commence at the top of a steep wooded hill, and the waters, in rainy seasons rush down into the village, which is surrounded by magnificent scenery; the falls are in the private grounds of The Priory, permission to view them is conceded on the presentation of a visiting card. The Duke of Beaufort A.D.C. who is lord of the manor, Douglas Rooke esq. and Henry de la Pasture esq. are the principal landowners."
There was a Charles de la Pasture at St Edmund's College, Ware from 1889 - 1892 According to his obituary in the July 1915 edition of the school magazine: "The Count de la Pasture, father of Captain Charles de la Pasture, lived near the College in the 1880s, at the mansion of Rowney Abbey. Charles de la Pasture spent 2 years at St Hugh's Preparatory School, from 1890-1892. After this, the family left the neighbourhood, and Charles de la Pasture was sent to Downside, where he stayed for the remainder of his studies. In 1900 he joined the army, and saw active service during the concluding stages of the Boer War. During the First World War he won distinction and was mentioned in the despatches of Sir John French dated 14 January 1914. He was killed on 29 October 1914."
She had two daughters, EMD was the eldest.
Count de la Pasture died in 1908 and in 1910 Mrs H married Sir Hugh Clifford GCMG, a distinguished colonial governor who governed the Gold Coast (1912-19), Nigeria (1919-25), Ceylon (1925-27) and the Malay States with Borneo (1927-29) when he resigned. In his Who's Who entry this was explained as "owing to Lady Clifford's serious illness" but was in fact due to his clinical insanity. After Sir Hugh died in 1941 (a 75) the DNB wrote of him that his "forceful but never dictatorial personality won him the respect and confidence of all races, even when the onset of clinical insanity led to eccentricities of behaviour". Lady C (=Mrs H de la P) in fact lived until 30 Oct 1945, 4 years after her husband and 2 years after EMD. She has male descendants in Canada under the name of Truelove but Auberon Waugh was unable to find out what happened to her younger daughter.
Sir Hugh's "some reflections on the Ceylon Land Question" are in the FARMER PAPERS at Cambridge. He also wrote: